There is so much more to life than high school.
When you are in high school, you get the impression that that’s how the whole world is. Or that high school is the world. It’s not. Thank God.
So, high school student, here is my message to you.
You may think that boy you are in love with is your future husband. He just might be. Or you might look back in ten years and THANK GOD that you were wrong. Some adults will tell you with a condescending chuckle that you don’t know what love is in high school. I think it’s definitely possible to be in love in high school. Just know that love gets better, deeper, beyond high school, even if you stay with the same person.
No matter how much you love, trust, adore your partner – DO NOT HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX. Just don’t. Ever. Not even once. Trust me when I tell you, an unplanned pregnancy or an STD are NOT going to do wonders for your future love life or current relationship.
You might be the girl who no guy seems to have any interest in. High school guys (and girls) can be incredibly dumb. Wait till college. I know gorgeous, smart, fun women who guys for some reason basically ignored in high school. If the opposite sex isn’t paying attention to you now, don’t worry. The universe is saving something better for you.
You may have had your heart broken and feel like there is no way you will ever survive or love anyone again. First heartbreak is really tough, but you will survive. I can still vividly recall my first real heartbreak with painful detail, over twelve years later. But trust me, you will love again. You will be a little stronger and hopefully a little wiser.
You may do some extremely embarrassing things in the name of love. These things make for good stories when you are older. Again, trust me on this. Basically, high school is a time of great awkwardness for all involved. As the saying goes, if you weren’t ugly in seventh grade, I almost don’t trust you. We all embarrass ourselves. People might pay attention for a little while, but eventually they are more concerned with their own lives to worry about yours for too long.
Be you. Man, that is a challenge in high school when everyone is insecure and looking for acceptance, love, attention, etc. The sooner you can learn to be you, the sooner amazing things will happen to you. In life in general, but in love as well.
Related to “Be you”: just let go of comparing. Not everyone meets their soul mate in high school. I did, and I didn’t even know it until I was older and had experienced more life than high school. Something you will learn in life is no matter how “perfect” a relationship looks on the outside, you really have no idea what goes on inside it. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, and if someone tries to make you believe that, RED FLAG.
Cultivate strong friendships. I bounced around from different friend groups quite a bit in high school, and that was a source of a lot of my heartache. Pick good friends and you will never regret it. I still have a group of friends who I have known since middle school and they are one of my biggest treasures in life. Learn how to be a good friend and you will learn how to be a good partner as well.
People are going to give you a lot of advice about love. Listen to the people you love and trust, but ultimately, trust your own gut. This will take practice, and you won’t get it right every time, but it’s a skill worth cultivating. Sometimes every stereotypical piece of advice you will get ends up being right, sometimes you will break every “love rule” and it will still turn out perfect.
Don’t give up on love. Don’t give up because you haven’t found it yet or because somebody hurt you deeply. Don’t give up because no girl looks at you as anything other than a friend or because no guy asks you to Prom. I have always had faith in love, and even though I have been hurt deeply, it has never let me down.
Your time in high school is fleeting. It may seem like it is never ending, but in the scheme of life it is the blink of an eye. Any pain you have is temporary. Many relationships are temporary. Enjoy your youth while you can. There is nothing quite like high school love, or high school heartbreak. Above all remember this: There are FAR, far better things than high school out there waiting for you.