Will and I got married on the most perfect day of the year. The weeks leading up to our wedding were some of the hottest on record – many days the temperature still lingered around 100 degrees by 5 pm. For the months leading up to the big day I spent a lot of my free time worrying that it might rain on our outdoor wedding and reception, but the weeks before it I was more worried someone might melt.
But that beautiful August day was crystal clear, not a cloud in the sky, with a light breeze and a high in the low 80s. Everything was perfectly in place, exactly as we had planned. All our loved ones were there. Our wonderful photographer even posted a shot of us on Facebook after the reception with the caption that our wedding “was PERFECT!” We had an all CAPS LOCK PERFECT DAY! But it was not the best day of my life.
My whole adult life I have watched endless albums and status updates and picture captions of weddings being labeled “The Best Day of My Life!!!” I can completely see why people say this, but I feel sort of sorry for these people. Because the best day of my life has nothing to do with what a “traditional” wedding includes: spending hours getting ready, thousands of dollars, and following a list of traditions that people expect of you. Our wedding was a great day, full of love and memories and beauty. It was also a long day, an expensive day, and a lot of work. If it takes all that to have the best day of your life, the rest of your days are kind of doomed …
The best day of my life would probably be some nameless Saturday afternoon. It might be the year we had a “W&A after Christmas celebration” in our first apartment together, where we ate white rice with soy sauce for dinner, watched terribly awful movies, had drinks, and stayed up for hours talking. It might have been one of the nights we stopped over at a friend’s house for a few minutes and ended up staying until 4 a.m. Or one of the summer days we spent on Flathead Lake with one of my best friends and her husband.
I can’t have a “Best Day of My Life!!!” because I have so many best days of my life. It is impossible for me to pick one day and say, “that’s it! The best day ever!” I think this has more to do with a life rich of beautiful times than of a “less than perfect” wedding day. I also like to think that my “best days” will keep getting better and better as time goes on. Wedding magazines, movies, tv shows, and vendors might like you to think differently, but I sincerely hope that your wedding isn’t the best day of your life. I am so glad it wasn’t the best day of mine.